You don’t need more time to decide. You need to stop running mental marathons over simple stuff.

If you’re constantly stuck in your head — replaying conversations, analyzing every outcome, and feeling paralyzed by even the smallest decision — this post is for you.

Let’s break down what’s really keeping you stuck in the spiral of overthinking — and how to get out.

Why You Can’t Stop Overthinking (Even When You Want To)

If your brain feels like it has 47 tabs open — and none of them are loading — you’re not alone.

Overthinking:

• Steals your peace.
• Wrecks your confidence.
• Turns small decisions into massive stress triggers.

But here’s the truth most people miss:

Overthinking is not who you are. It’s a habit. A pattern.

And habits can be changed.

In this post, I’m sharing 5 powerful mindset shifts that will help you stop overthinking and start trusting yourself again.

The third one? It’s the one no one talks about — and it’s probably what’s keeping you up at night.

Mindset Shift #1: Your Brain is Wired for Survival — Not Clarity

Your brain’s #1 job is to keep you alive, not to keep you calm.

That’s why it constantly scans for potential threats — even in everyday situations like a meeting or text message.

Ever find yourself replaying a weird interaction from three days ago at 2 a.m.?

Yeah. That’s your survival brain doing its thing.

🧠 Fun fact: A study in Science showed we make over 35,000 decisions per day.

No wonder we’re mentally fried.

✨ The Shift:

Ask yourself:

“Is this a real problem… or am I just trying to avoid a bad feeling?”

Fear doesn’t bring clarity. Calling out the fear does.

Mindset Shift #2: Overthinking = Self-Doubt in Disguise

Let’s talk about Leila.

She’d spend 30 minutes editing a 2-sentence email. Rewrite a text 6 times. Obsess over whether her outfit was “too much.”

What she was really saying was:

“I don’t trust myself to get it right.”

We often confuse overthinking with being “thorough” or “careful.”

But underneath it? It’s self-doubt.

✨ The Shift:

You don’t need to be 100% certain to move forward.

You’re allowed to get it wrong and still be worthy.

Confidence isn’t the absence of overthinking — it’s the courage to act despite it.

Mindset Shift #3: You’re Not Looking for the Perfect Decision — You’re Looking for Control

Let this one land for a moment.

When we say, “I just need more time,” what we really mean is,

“I’m afraid to mess this up.”

We think if we analyze everything perfectly, we’ll avoid regret or pain.

But perfection?

It’s an illusion.

✨ The Shift:

Ask:

“What’s the best next step I can take with the info I have right now?”

This shift moves you from paralysis to progress.

From fear to curiosity.

From control to courage.

Mindset Shift #4: You Don’t Need More Thinking — You Need More Action

This one might sting a little:

You don’t need another journal entry, checklist, or heart-to-heart with your best friend.

You need to take the next small, messy step.

We get stuck thinking we need to figure it all out before we move.

But clarity comes from doing, not thinking.

💡 A study in the Journal of Behavioral Decision Making found that people who took action, even small imperfect ones, had more confidence and less regret than those who stayed in indecision.

✨ The Shift:

Say this instead:

“Let me take one small step and see how it feels.”

Confidence isn’t born in your head — it’s built through lived experience.

Mindset Shift #5: You Are Not Your Thoughts

Here’s a truth bomb most people never learn:

You are not your thoughts. You’re the one thinking them.

Thoughts like:

• “I’m not good enough.”
• “They probably hate me.”
• “I’ll never get this right.”

…aren’t facts. They’re stories shaped by fear and conditioning.

🧠 According to Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), one of the most powerful ways to stop overthinking is to challenge automatic thoughts, not believe them blindly.

✨ The Shift:

Ask yourself:

• Is this thought helpful?
• Is it kind?
• Is it even true?

When you realize thoughts are suggestions — not instructions — you reclaim your power.

What’s Actually Keeping You Stuck

Most people think overthinking is about avoiding the wrong decision.

But the real issue is this:

Overthinking disconnects you from yourself.

You start ignoring your gut.

You stop trusting your own wisdom.

You outsource your power to Google searches, Reddit threads, and opinions from people who don’t live your life.

Why Do We Overthink in the First Place?

Let’s break it down:

• We were taught to fear failure.
• We were shamed for making “wrong” choices.
• We think being decisive means being reckless.
• And sometimes? We just want to feel in control of a chaotic world.

But guess what?

❌ Overthinking doesn’t protect you.

❌ It doesn’t help you grow.

❌ And it definitely doesn’t make life easier.

People who build bold, fulfilling lives don’t have more certainty.

They have more trust in themselves.

Here’s your permission slip:

There is no perfect decision.

The “right” decision is not something you find.

It’s something you create — through action, trust, and small course corrections.

Imagine this:

What if you dropped the need to be perfect, and started living like you could handle whatever came your way?

Because you can.

Final Thoughts: How to Stop Overthinking and Start Living

Here’s a quick recap of the 5 mindset shifts to break free from overthinking:

1. 🧠 Your brain is wired for protection, not peace.
2. ❓ Overthinking is usually self-doubt wearing a logical mask.
3. 🎯 You’re chasing control, not clarity.
4. 🚶‍♀️ Action is the antidote to anxiety.
5. 💭 You are not your thoughts — question them.

You don’t need to overthink less.

You just need to start trusting yourself more.

Every decision doesn’t need to be perfect.

It just needs to be yours.

Remember you are not alone!

Until next time, stay radiant!

With love and light Christabel

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